One of the worst things you can do to a woman or a man that has lost their child is to make a comment out of pure ignorance.
Questions like: Did you do something wrong? God took your baby? The baby wasn’t born alive, you can have another one? Something was wrong with the baby?
Is it better to keep silent? Or should you continue to make hurting unresolved comments that send the bereaved parents deeper in their grief.
I don’t understand why there is so much tension, so much displacement to parents that have lost a child . We are not contagious, we are not mistakes, we didn’t do anything wrong.
There is always that series of questions: Why has this happened to this family? Will they make it? Will their marriage survive? Will they continue to go to there place of worship? Will they blame God? Will they begin to live again? Will they have other kids? Will they have peace and joy again? Will they realize that life is more than just emptiness? Will they believe there is purpose for their grief?
My answer to you as a mother who has lost her child, is simply YES! I am breaking the silence!